Gender Roles, Instincts, Alleged Flaws And Inferiority
This continues entry 468, where I mentioned the asymmetrical constellations of lacking reciprocity in the significance of another person. The same allegation of flaws indicating inferiority is very often not considered or perceived as being the same but differing, when the target is either a woman or a man. There are double standards concerning what treatment is pertinent and suitable for women but not for men.
This continues entry 468, where I mentioned the asymmetrical constellations of lacking reciprocity in the significance of another person. The same allegation of flaws indicating inferiority is very often not considered or perceived as being the same but differing, when the target is either a woman or a man. There are double standards concerning what treatment is pertinent and suitable for women but not for men.
In the situation or disagreement with being treated as inferior by another man, a man often reacts to the insult with aggression and anger. This is considered as only a man's appropriate reaction.
When women are treated or considered as inferior by men, they are supposed and expected to react with acquiescence. There is a general pattern of how easily men are prone to presume and accept a woman's inferiority without hesitation, doubt or further investigation, no matter, what the woman herself does, says, thinks or wants.
This unfortunate pattern can be traced back to the combination of subconscious instinctive urges and more conscious gender roles serving those instincts.
1. Subconscious instincts
When a woman wants a companion for a relationship of two equal partners, this means for her the crucial and indispensable condition of mutual respect and appreciation. It excludes alleging flaws, because this implies disrespect. For such a woman, perceiving flaws or being considered flawed are indications of lacking equality and this impedes to get involved. For her, it is equality or nothing.
For many men, there are two levels, two alternative relationship concepts. Even a man, who prefers to have an equal companion, does not automatically evaluate a woman as unsuitable, when he consciously perceives her as intellectually inferior, either by fact or allegation. Instead, often instincts take control over him. While he does not expect emotional and intellectual benefits from someone considered inferior, his instincts still react to physical attraction, and he continues to pursue her for the benefits from using her body as a utility.
For any woman, who restricts her choice of whom to get involved with by her evaluation of being two equals, this leads to a tragic mismatch, whenever the man fails her expectations and instead degrades and devalues her as a utility due to her alleged flaws. He subjectively feels as justified to use her as she feels justified to expect being perceived and treated as an equal partner.
2. Gender roles
For many men, there are two levels, two alternative relationship concepts. Even a man, who prefers to have an equal companion, does not automatically evaluate a woman as unsuitable, when he consciously perceives her as intellectually inferior, either by fact or allegation. Instead, often instincts take control over him. While he does not expect emotional and intellectual benefits from someone considered inferior, his instincts still react to physical attraction, and he continues to pursue her for the benefits from using her body as a utility.
For any woman, who restricts her choice of whom to get involved with by her evaluation of being two equals, this leads to a tragic mismatch, whenever the man fails her expectations and instead degrades and devalues her as a utility due to her alleged flaws. He subjectively feels as justified to use her as she feels justified to expect being perceived and treated as an equal partner.
2. Gender roles
Social gender roles represent the inclination and needs of the majority of the population. These roles prescribe those behaviors, which are most successfully enabling this majority to live in accordance with their subconscious instincts. This means that gender roles favor procreation.
Gender roles therefore standardize behavior in favor of average people. When applied to and forced upon people, who are different and not average, this is often very detrimental.
Gender roles are installed into people's brains mostly during childhood and youth. The gender roles still prevalent in my own generation here in Germany were based upon the asymmetry between the male breadwinner and the dependent housewife.
These gender roles unfortunately confound innate inferiority and secondary inferiority caused by the lack of chances to develop the innate capacities, talents and skills.
In those days men were on average better educated, better instructed, more skilled than women. Therefore statistically, men and women more often than not found themselves in an asymmetrical situation of interaction, where the unfortunate women were intellectually inferior independent of their intelligence and their potentials.
A woman wasting her life away as a housewife and mother was deprived of becoming an equal partner apt to participate in intellectual communication with a man, who was enabled and encouraged to cultivate his brain.
Gender roles therefore standardize behavior in favor of average people. When applied to and forced upon people, who are different and not average, this is often very detrimental.
Gender roles are installed into people's brains mostly during childhood and youth. The gender roles still prevalent in my own generation here in Germany were based upon the asymmetry between the male breadwinner and the dependent housewife.
These gender roles unfortunately confound innate inferiority and secondary inferiority caused by the lack of chances to develop the innate capacities, talents and skills.
In those days men were on average better educated, better instructed, more skilled than women. Therefore statistically, men and women more often than not found themselves in an asymmetrical situation of interaction, where the unfortunate women were intellectually inferior independent of their intelligence and their potentials.
A woman wasting her life away as a housewife and mother was deprived of becoming an equal partner apt to participate in intellectual communication with a man, who was enabled and encouraged to cultivate his brain.
By experiencing this circumstantial female inferiority, men were misled to generalize it to all women and to then treat them all indiscriminately as inferior, losing any perception to notice the exceptions. Women were also brainwashed to expect all men as superior without even checking the reality of this myth. Thus women omitted to correct the male prejudice and men got reinforced even more in their false belief in the general and innate female inferiority.
Habituation and desensitization perpetuated this imbalanced situation. Too many men continue to take women's inferiority and their acquiescence therewith for granted and natural, without consciously doubting this.
In spite of the brainwashed average women's apparent or even real acquiescence, these gender roles are very harmful to those women, who are not average and not brainwashed. The same attitudes and behavior, that are suitable or at least not harmful to average women, are often very hurting for egalitarian educated women.
