654. Gender Differences As A Research Result
I am aware of what I have learned by my own experiences and perception of men's behavior and of the huge distinction between how much most men are under the power of animal instincts and how little I am myself afflicted by such instincts.
I am aware of what I have learned by my own experiences and perception of men's behavior and of the huge distinction between how much most men are under the power of animal instincts and how little I am myself afflicted by such instincts.
My own needs for attachment, commitment, companionship, appreciation of and respect for my brain and the recognition, that I deserve something better than being mistaken for a commodity are the contrary of many men's instinctive urges towards using female bodies without commitment.
But this awareness does not imply, that I am able to generalize correctly from myself to other women without a bias. There are too many women presented on the web as allegedly and apparently by choice promiscuous, prostitutes and porno-stars to not be puzzled.
But this awareness does not imply, that I am able to generalize correctly from myself to other women without a bias. There are too many women presented on the web as allegedly and apparently by choice promiscuous, prostitutes and porno-stars to not be puzzled.
The truth about this and about how many of them remain unharmed cannot be obtained from the standard media. Feminist publications present this very differently. Those of these women, who suffer later from irreversible psychological damage, are often either not presented or the damage is attributed to any other cause but not the self-afflicted compliance with being abused.
Many people are gullible to social norms and external influences distorting their attitudes and evaluation of their own behavior, both as perpetrators and as victims. In many societies, especially in modern western cultures, this favors men. Women are fooled to underestimate the self-inflicted harm and men are fooled and fool themselves, that there is nothing wrong with what they do. It is a sad reality, that too many men are naive and stupid enough to believe, that what they experience as beneficial for themselves, cannot cause harm for women. Because they feel an urge to copulate like alley dogs, they cannot comprehend, that this harms women. It is a good example, that a good theory of mind would be a better protection against harming others than is simple naive empathy.
I am a allergic to any male attitude towards commodifying and objectifying women. I am aware that many other women on the web appear to protest and to reject abuse much less than I do and to tolerate and to condone male harming transgressions more easily. I cannot know the reasons, why they differ from me.
I wonder if they really suffer less as the victims of male instincts. Maybe the real difference between them and me is my greater resistance to being manipulated. The socially propagated female gender role is not a part of my ideal self nor of my identity. As an independent thinker I am immune to be made to believe, that what men do to women is automatically appropriate and that women should therefore not disagree but attempt to accommodate men by submission to their needs and repressing own needs.
Therefore I always welcome research, which shows, that other women too are not the complying animals for copulating alley dogs, even though men prefer and misperceive them as such:
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/04/130410192806.htm
Many people are gullible to social norms and external influences distorting their attitudes and evaluation of their own behavior, both as perpetrators and as victims. In many societies, especially in modern western cultures, this favors men. Women are fooled to underestimate the self-inflicted harm and men are fooled and fool themselves, that there is nothing wrong with what they do. It is a sad reality, that too many men are naive and stupid enough to believe, that what they experience as beneficial for themselves, cannot cause harm for women. Because they feel an urge to copulate like alley dogs, they cannot comprehend, that this harms women. It is a good example, that a good theory of mind would be a better protection against harming others than is simple naive empathy.
I am a allergic to any male attitude towards commodifying and objectifying women. I am aware that many other women on the web appear to protest and to reject abuse much less than I do and to tolerate and to condone male harming transgressions more easily. I cannot know the reasons, why they differ from me.
I wonder if they really suffer less as the victims of male instincts. Maybe the real difference between them and me is my greater resistance to being manipulated. The socially propagated female gender role is not a part of my ideal self nor of my identity. As an independent thinker I am immune to be made to believe, that what men do to women is automatically appropriate and that women should therefore not disagree but attempt to accommodate men by submission to their needs and repressing own needs.
Therefore I always welcome research, which shows, that other women too are not the complying animals for copulating alley dogs, even though men prefer and misperceive them as such:
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/04/130410192806.htm
"Women saw the maintenance of their romantic partnerships as a team sport, involving equal input from both partners with shared goals and beliefs being the key to success. Further, their happiness and contentment were intimately bound up in both their best friendships and romantic partnerships.
In contrast, men were found to exist at a greater distance from both of their closest relationships. When asked to score themselves against their best friends and romantic partners on a range of attributes their responses indicated that, consciously or not, they continued to act as though they were members of the dating market despite being in committed relationships."
"Dr Machin concluded that: "Our research shows that successful relationships are much more essential to women's well-being than men's. Men seem to keep their relationships at arm's length with one eye on the dating market. It seems that regardless of our culture of monogamy and commitment the biological imperative still operates, to a greater or lesser degree, for men. The war of the sexes is still alive and kicking within our relationships."" [My emphasis]
