707. Selfish Men's Delusion And Myth
Recognizing the biological reality, that only a man has a recurrent physiological urge to get rid of body waste, which women do not have, enables him to acknowledge, what a woman really does, when she contributes to his maintenance of his homeostasis. He appreciates this as a gift of love from her. As a caring and equal partner, he returns his own gift of love, by equally fulfilling her needs: He bonds with her in committed monogamy, he reciprocates her emotional attachment and the feeling of belonging together, and of being a unit, he shares intellectual intimacy, he enables her to feel significant and protected in a reliable save haven.
But there are also those men, who want access to women's bodies without giving any of the above, and nevertheless they avoid to experience themselves as selfish or abusive. The complete denial of the biological asymmetry is their method.
Recognizing the biological reality, that only a man has a recurrent physiological urge to get rid of body waste, which women do not have, enables him to acknowledge, what a woman really does, when she contributes to his maintenance of his homeostasis. He appreciates this as a gift of love from her. As a caring and equal partner, he returns his own gift of love, by equally fulfilling her needs: He bonds with her in committed monogamy, he reciprocates her emotional attachment and the feeling of belonging together, and of being a unit, he shares intellectual intimacy, he enables her to feel significant and protected in a reliable save haven.
But there are also those men, who want access to women's bodies without giving any of the above, and nevertheless they avoid to experience themselves as selfish or abusive. The complete denial of the biological asymmetry is their method.
These men have created a myth, which is perpetuated by the male dominated media: This myth is a collective male delusion and fallacy, that allegedly women would have the same need for sex as men and would therefore also equally benefit. This claim serves as these men's justification to refuse giving anything to the women or to ever accept any obligation to fulfill women's different needs.
But it gets even worse. Not all women are brainwashed by the oversexed social norms, some are quite aware of their own reality, that a behavior, which every animal without a rational brain does by instinct, is just too banal and stupid to be bothered about it. For an intellectual woman, the question, how much or how little she enjoys a book, an art exhibition or a theater play is so much more significant than the question, how much she enjoys food or sex. When a woman states this comparison about food, most men are able to grasp this. But not about sex, which blurs male brains. Whenever a woman has the self-confidence to insist, that she considers the male needs merely as an unavoidable banality in a relationship, most men are just unable to accept or respect this attitude. Instead of recognizing, that some women's cognition is above such banalities, these men defame such women as flawed, inhibited or repressed.
But it gets even worse. Not all women are brainwashed by the oversexed social norms, some are quite aware of their own reality, that a behavior, which every animal without a rational brain does by instinct, is just too banal and stupid to be bothered about it. For an intellectual woman, the question, how much or how little she enjoys a book, an art exhibition or a theater play is so much more significant than the question, how much she enjoys food or sex. When a woman states this comparison about food, most men are able to grasp this. But not about sex, which blurs male brains. Whenever a woman has the self-confidence to insist, that she considers the male needs merely as an unavoidable banality in a relationship, most men are just unable to accept or respect this attitude. Instead of recognizing, that some women's cognition is above such banalities, these men defame such women as flawed, inhibited or repressed.
