584. Rejection And Objectification
The more someone is valued and appreciated as a person, the more a rejection by this person hurts. Experiencing such rejections is a reason to select carefully, whom to approach as a method to preclude avoidable rejections.
This is not only the case in real life, but also when initiating contact on the internet.
Of course, there is no justification to take a rejection by a complete stranger personally. The contacted person rejects not the unknown real personality of the contacting one, but merely the apparent impression and perception as presented by the profile.
But this is principally a rejection of a person by a person, even when the rejected person only exists as a distorted imagination.
Many men contact women in a haphazard and indiscriminate way, without even reading profiles, taking not at all for serious, what the women want. As a result, they get rejected very often. Yet this seems not at all to bother or discourage them, they continue as if being rejected had no impact upon them.
I have got aware of the probable reason. While women reject these men as unsuitable, or even as weird and foolish for even trying the unattainable, these men do not experience the refusal as being rejected by a person.
They are like hunters, who have attempted to shoot a rabbit and missed. Such hunters do not feel rejected by the rabbit, they merely experience this as the failure to have hit one target, which requires to move on and try the next. They may interpret the rejections as being themselves losers, failures, clumsy, but it is all about have missed to gain access to the use of an object. Women are no subjects in this, only hunted objects.
They are predators hunting prey, not humans in search of a companion.
The more someone is valued and appreciated as a person, the more a rejection by this person hurts. Experiencing such rejections is a reason to select carefully, whom to approach as a method to preclude avoidable rejections.
This is not only the case in real life, but also when initiating contact on the internet.
Of course, there is no justification to take a rejection by a complete stranger personally. The contacted person rejects not the unknown real personality of the contacting one, but merely the apparent impression and perception as presented by the profile.
But this is principally a rejection of a person by a person, even when the rejected person only exists as a distorted imagination.
Many men contact women in a haphazard and indiscriminate way, without even reading profiles, taking not at all for serious, what the women want. As a result, they get rejected very often. Yet this seems not at all to bother or discourage them, they continue as if being rejected had no impact upon them.
I have got aware of the probable reason. While women reject these men as unsuitable, or even as weird and foolish for even trying the unattainable, these men do not experience the refusal as being rejected by a person.
They are like hunters, who have attempted to shoot a rabbit and missed. Such hunters do not feel rejected by the rabbit, they merely experience this as the failure to have hit one target, which requires to move on and try the next. They may interpret the rejections as being themselves losers, failures, clumsy, but it is all about have missed to gain access to the use of an object. Women are no subjects in this, only hunted objects.
They are predators hunting prey, not humans in search of a companion.
Whenever predators objectify women by hunting them as prey, this automatically precludes their feeling rejected when they fail.
Whenever men lack to feel rejected, this indicates objectification.
