586. Jerks With Halos
In entry 381 I described Diego Rivera as a jerk with a halo. He is just one specimen of many, and it is a pattern of very detrimental and unfavorable dynamics.
I consider people (usually men) as jerks with a halo, when they are accomplished or outstanding in some area, as artists, writers, scientists, actors, politicians or even as benefactors for many people, while they also inflict a lot of suffering upon persons close to them.
In entry 381 I described Diego Rivera as a jerk with a halo. He is just one specimen of many, and it is a pattern of very detrimental and unfavorable dynamics.
I consider people (usually men) as jerks with a halo, when they are accomplished or outstanding in some area, as artists, writers, scientists, actors, politicians or even as benefactors for many people, while they also inflict a lot of suffering upon persons close to them.
Jerks are jerks, and the suffering of their victims is real and no halo seen by any third party does reduce this suffering, it only hides it in an unjustifiable way.
Accomplishments need to be evaluated by themselves, without any impact upon the subjective recognition of the magnitude of personal transgressions. The harm done to the unfortunate victims is an unacceptable moral failure, this is independent of any coexisting achievements.
Accomplishments need to be evaluated by themselves, without any impact upon the subjective recognition of the magnitude of personal transgressions. The harm done to the unfortunate victims is an unacceptable moral failure, this is independent of any coexisting achievements.
Accomplishments do not exempt people from being responsible for what they do to others.
But this is unfortunately not reality. Instead, there is a general tendency to condone unacceptable, immoral and cruel behaviors in proportional accordance with the transgressor's fame due to his accomplishments. By this fallacy of accepted compensation, someone can buy by his accomplishments the right to harm without consequences.
This fallacy is enhanced and perpetuated by any combination of several factors, which all lead to the underestimation of the harm done to the victims:
1. Women's apparent and alleged compliance when continuing to expose themselves to their plight.
1.1. Women are dependent upon the material support by the man, especially by raising children. They would leave the jerk, if the could.
1.2. Women in asymmetrical relationships have got onesidedly emotionally attached to the jerk, who in return has an entitlement delusion. His fallacy is his belief, that women exist for his convenience, his accomplishments justifying their commodification. I described this in entry 268 (The Jerk Attachment Syndrome).
2. The generalization of suggestive influences of religion, especially christianity, upon both the jerks and the victims. The jerks with halos subjectively consider their accomplishment as their currency to buy the right to harm women.
But this is unfortunately not reality. Instead, there is a general tendency to condone unacceptable, immoral and cruel behaviors in proportional accordance with the transgressor's fame due to his accomplishments. By this fallacy of accepted compensation, someone can buy by his accomplishments the right to harm without consequences.
This fallacy is enhanced and perpetuated by any combination of several factors, which all lead to the underestimation of the harm done to the victims:
1. Women's apparent and alleged compliance when continuing to expose themselves to their plight.
1.1. Women are dependent upon the material support by the man, especially by raising children. They would leave the jerk, if the could.
1.2. Women in asymmetrical relationships have got onesidedly emotionally attached to the jerk, who in return has an entitlement delusion. His fallacy is his belief, that women exist for his convenience, his accomplishments justifying their commodification. I described this in entry 268 (The Jerk Attachment Syndrome).
2. The generalization of suggestive influences of religion, especially christianity, upon both the jerks and the victims. The jerks with halos subjectively consider their accomplishment as their currency to buy the right to harm women.
In religion, sin is believed to be compensatable by penitence, so that after having paid for the previous sin, there is no cognitive obstacle to prevent the next sin. Replacing penitence by accomplishments is a fallacy, which is not very far fetched, considering the weirdness of the religious beliefs in themselves.
Thus jerks are not only haloed by others, but they also halo themselves by believing, that their accomplishments entitle them to privileges, even when the privileges harm others.
Women allow men to harm them for the purpose of buying the reward after death with the currency of their forgiving the unforgivable and by their prolonged suffering .
3. Sometimes people feel a vague, fuzzy and unspecified need to improve themselves, but are uncertain, how to proceed. When they discover persons, whom they do not know personally, but only by the presentation in their work and in the media, such persons are chosen as role models. The nearer the role models appear to be perfect, the stronger the appeal to imitate them. The successful imitation boosts the self-esteem and causes good feelings. This motivates to maintain the idealization of the role model, even when it is not at all justified in the case of haloed jerks. As a consequence, the idealization of such a role model is protected by the denial of unpleasant and dark sides. The focus is restricted to the perception of the halo, while the jerk underneath is willfully overlooked.
Thus jerks are not only haloed by others, but they also halo themselves by believing, that their accomplishments entitle them to privileges, even when the privileges harm others.
Women allow men to harm them for the purpose of buying the reward after death with the currency of their forgiving the unforgivable and by their prolonged suffering .
3. Sometimes people feel a vague, fuzzy and unspecified need to improve themselves, but are uncertain, how to proceed. When they discover persons, whom they do not know personally, but only by the presentation in their work and in the media, such persons are chosen as role models. The nearer the role models appear to be perfect, the stronger the appeal to imitate them. The successful imitation boosts the self-esteem and causes good feelings. This motivates to maintain the idealization of the role model, even when it is not at all justified in the case of haloed jerks. As a consequence, the idealization of such a role model is protected by the denial of unpleasant and dark sides. The focus is restricted to the perception of the halo, while the jerk underneath is willfully overlooked.
Seen from this perspective, many admired and famous men are in reality only jerks with halos.
