I am a woman born 1949 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:

The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

622. The Fallacy Of Trusting First Impressions

622.   The Fallacy Of Trusting First Impressions

Sometimes first impressions can be very misleading.    The following is as usually written with the precaution, that anything found online can never be fully relied upon to appear as what was really meant and intended.   There are also too many technical errors, manipulations and fabrications online.

But still, when I see on a dating site a man's profile containing three pictures taken at different ages, each showing the guy with a beard and hair beyond his shoulders, this leads to spontaneous associations with Woodstock, peace rallies and worldwide solidarity.

Today, I was really baffled, when I read such a man's answers to matching questions, which could not have been more the contrary to what his looks suggested.    He defines himself as a "radical reactionary", favors outright racism, has an aversion against any kind of same gender couples, requires women to take the husband's name at marriage and more.  

For a short moment I even suspected these answers to be irony. or a joke or even a provocation at the wrong place.   But nobody answers such a lot of questions as consistently as he did.   So it seems to me, that he really means it.