I am a woman born 1949 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:

The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.

Epicurean Or Hedonist Questionnaire

Epicurean Or Hedonist Questionnaire

The following questionnaire is based upon entry 389 and the differences between what is the strongest motivation for behavior, depending on what stimuli the pleasure center in the brain is most sensitive and perceptive to.  
My own or preferred answers are in green.    
Not sharing all the answers in this questionnaire is not a dealbreaker.    But the more your answers differ from mine, the more there is risk of conflict and disruption.   

If you live on a budget,
~ what would you rather spend money on?
An meal in a restaurant
A theater play

~ what would you do?
Take a taxi, when there is no public transport
Walk home several miles and buy a book, that interests you

You have two alternatives to spend an evening,
~ which would you choose?
A barbecue
A vernissage

~ which would you choose?
Wine tasting
A moonlight hike

~ which would you choose?
A party
A lecture on a topic, that interests you

If you would win a voucher and can choose,
~ which would you prefer?
A luxury weekend by air travel
2 weeks by bus and staying in hostels

~ which would you prefer?
A weekend in a wellness spa
A weekend in an ancient castle

Which would you prefer?
Expensive or luxury food from plastic dishes
Simple food from beautiful dishes

What do you enjoy more?
Attempts to stop thinking by methods like meditation
Rational, analytical thinking and introspection

What do you consider as better self-improvement?
Working out at the gym or other sports  
Gaining awareness about your own behavior

If you have a flat tire, which would make you feel good?
The power to make another person do the job for you
Your skill and achievement to change it yourself
What would make you feel good?
The power to walk into a shop and buy immediately, what you want
The achievement of making a bargain on an auction or flea market

Which would you prefer?
A night in a luxury hotel but alone
Sharing the discomfort of spending a night in a bus station with a significant other

Do intellectual pursuits make you oblivious of discomfort like being hungry or cold?
At least sometimes

How would you react, if your significant other delays a meal and causes you to remain hungry for some time?
This is an interference with your entitlement to the immediate fulfillment of your needs
Being together is enough of a compensation for temporary discomfort