quest


I am a woman of 65 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:
marulaki@hotmail.com


The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.


Mindmate Basic Checklist

Mindmate Checklist

After writing so much, I thought, I might resume it in a checklist.   

Have you been born between about 1944 and 1952?
  • if YES, continue
Do you have any children of any age and anywhere, even far away?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have spent at least some years studying at a university or college?
  • if YES, continue
Are you an atheist, free of any religious belief?
  • if YES, continue
Are you a skeptic, rational, and free from woo-woo, new age, esoteric nonsense?   There is a rationality questionnaire on another page.
  • if YES, continue
Do you smoke?
  • if NO, continue
Are you still in contact with any woman, who has been an intimate partner of you in the past?
  • if NO, continue
Do you practise an intimate encounter/fling/no-strings-fun, if you have the occasion?   Have you done that in the past?
  • if NO, continue
Is the begin of an intimate relationship for you automatically the begin of commitment?
  • if YES, continue
Do you watch pornography?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have close friendships with other women, while you are in a relationship?
  • if NO, continue
Are you interested in spectator sports, like watching football on tv?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have dangerous hobbies like riding a motorcycle?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have tattoos and piercings?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have a full beard or would you grow one to please a woman?
  • if YES, continue
Are you yourself in jeans, t-shirts and sneakers, do you refuse to wear suits and ties?
  • if YES, continue
Do you drink alcohol every day?
  • if NO, continue
Are you obese?
  • if NO, continue
Do you have pets?
  • if NO, continue
Are you politically right wing/conservative?  
  • if NO, continue
Do you consider yourself mostly as a hypoanimalistic person with an individualistic identity?
  • if YES, continue
Can you agree with the ERCP, monogamy and the other principles of a relationship as outlined in this blog?
  • if YES, continue
Is living and spending time together with a partner your priority for the rest of your life?   Will your partner be the most important person in the world for you?
  • if YES, please contact me by email:  marulaki@hotmail.com.  You could be my mindmate.