642. Statistical Evidence Of The Asymmetry Of Instincts
According to estimates recently published in the local newspaper, the yearly transaction volume of prostitution in Germany are € 14.5 billion and the daily number of abusers (euphemistically called clients) of prostitutes are 1.2 millions. The population of Germany is nearly 82 millions.
Even by a cautious interpretation of estimated numbers, the magnitude of this market gives clear evidence of the biological asymmetry and the differences between male and female animal instincts.
According to estimates recently published in the local newspaper, the yearly transaction volume of prostitution in Germany are € 14.5 billion and the daily number of abusers (euphemistically called clients) of prostitutes are 1.2 millions. The population of Germany is nearly 82 millions.
Even by a cautious interpretation of estimated numbers, the magnitude of this market gives clear evidence of the biological asymmetry and the differences between male and female animal instincts.
I am basing my consideration, that prostitution is clear evidence for a blatant asymmetry upon the logic in people's decision, what they are willing to pay for and what they only supply in return for payment.
People choose to pay money for the fulfillment of a need by another person, who himself does not benefit from his part in the activity and who therefore has no own reason to engage in unless for money.
Outside training and instructing, people have no need to pay a partner for shared activities as is playing chess, tennis or dancing. Such activities are chosen by both partners in a symmetrical dyad for the purpose of mutual benefits.
People choose to pay money for the fulfillment of a need by another person, who himself does not benefit from his part in the activity and who therefore has no own reason to engage in unless for money.
Outside training and instructing, people have no need to pay a partner for shared activities as is playing chess, tennis or dancing. Such activities are chosen by both partners in a symmetrical dyad for the purpose of mutual benefits.
Someone shining another person's shoes does not do this for personal benefits or by deriving pleasure engaging in such an activity. Without being paid, nobody would shine shoes. The person wanting his shoes shined can therefore obtain this service only by the compensation of payment.
The statistical fact, that so many men can only restore their physiological homeostasis by paying indicates very clearly, that the emotionally unattached copulation of two bodies is not or rarely experienced by women as beneficial.
The statistical fact, that so many men can only restore their physiological homeostasis by paying indicates very clearly, that the emotionally unattached copulation of two bodies is not or rarely experienced by women as beneficial.
1. Evolution
Some men justify their abuse of women as this being natural and that humans are just animals and thus nothing were wrong with behaving as such. This is a fallacy, because it does not take into consideration the very unique distinction in humans between the evolution of both genders, where only in the females the cognition has evolved towards overriding the force of instincts.
Most species of non-human mammals copulate for the purpose of procreation at the moment of the female estrus. As these animals are lacking the human cognition, especially the long-term memory, copulation does not create attachment. For animals, copulation is a physiological act of limited duration, which leaves no traces except fertilization. For most mammals, male dishomeostasis and female estrus are balanced and occurring following a similar cycle of recurrence.
In humans, this balance is disrupted and modified in several ways.
In humans, this balance is disrupted and modified in several ways.
- The female estrus cycle is about one month, while male sexual dishomeostasis is a cycle of days or even hours.
- Women are neither consciously and innately aware of nor signaling the moment of the estrus.
- The moment of estrus is for women only an option to become pregnant, not an automatic urge.
This means, that the human evolution has changed male instinctive urges to copulate with a female body only towards a higher frequency of the dishomeostasis. But it has separated the female urge to procreate from being driven by the estrus to copulate for the purpose of becoming pregnant. Emotional attachment has replaced the estrus as what is motivating women towards physical intimacy.
If women were able to react adequately to this imbalance by refusing any abuse of their bodies and demand emotional attachment from men as a condition for giving them homeostasis, the human species would have been extinct a long time.
If women were able to react adequately to this imbalance by refusing any abuse of their bodies and demand emotional attachment from men as a condition for giving them homeostasis, the human species would have been extinct a long time.
But the concurrent superior male physical strength has enabled men to enforce their homeostation by the abuse of the bodies of non-consenting women. Thus the ability for emotional attachment did not evolve equally in men.
2. The effects of this evolutionary asymmetry on contemporary people.
2. The effects of this evolutionary asymmetry on contemporary people.
A man wanting to merely copulate with a female body has only the choice between abuse by force or abuse by payment. If he wants a woman's motivation to give him his recurrent homeostation, he has to take care, that she has a reason to experience physical intimacy as beneficial for herself. This reason is giving her emotional attachment, bonding and long-term commitment.
In modern civilized countries, the risk of the dire consequences of abuse by force is so high, that the abusers usually choose prostitution.
Prostitution is for the man the exact simulation of the situation of the animal copulation. But a woman, who is not driven by an estrus to get pregnant, has no own reason to copulate with a body. She does not experience any personal benefits by being abused as a toilet for men's body waste. The prostitute takes money as a compensation for the damage of allowing herself to be abused (if this even is a free choice).
2.1. Modern communication technology like the web enables people to find a partner for any activity. Whenever an activity supplies reciprocal and symmetrical benefits, people can find a partner without needing to pay.
If uncommitted copulation of two bodies were beneficial for more than a tiny minority of women, men would find them and avoid paying for prostitution. The web is full with ads and profiles of men, who want intimate encounters, no strings fun, friends with benefits or any other euphemism for wanting a woman as a living toilet. Any woman (if there are any) attracted to be used this way, would be certainly found. But the € 14.5 billion yearly only in Germany show, that the consent to be abused is not available for free, it is only sold.
2.2. There is a big difference between reducing dishomeostasis and attempting to find and indulge in pleasure. Dishomeostasis is experienced as an urge to remove or reduce a state of discomfort and return to the neutral relaxed state. This urge can severely disrupt rational thinking and distort appropriate behavior.
2.2. There is a big difference between reducing dishomeostasis and attempting to find and indulge in pleasure. Dishomeostasis is experienced as an urge to remove or reduce a state of discomfort and return to the neutral relaxed state. This urge can severely disrupt rational thinking and distort appropriate behavior.
When in a relaxed state there is a free choice for additional pleasure and enjoyment, this is an undisturbed mind's wise choice or preference.
Most people would prefer to buy for example a piece of cake or a newspaper rather than a painkiller. But when they experience the dishomeostasis of having a headache then they need the painkiller and cannot spend that money on buying something else. They are more driven to pay for relief than for pleasure.
A man in the state of homeostasis can wisely choose between spending a sum of money on a book, a visit to the zoo or in a restaurant. But a man, who pays a prostitute instead of buying a book is unable to make a wise choice, he is driven by an urge to reduce his physiological discomfort.
2.3. By evolution, women's strong need for emotional attachment has replaced the urge to copulate as being identical with the urge to get pregnant at the moment of a noticeable estrus. This need to not only be in a situation of being able to get attached but also to experience the attachment as reciprocal is doomed to bring harm and pain, as long as it is onesided, because too many men are driven towards copulation without attachment.
Most people would prefer to buy for example a piece of cake or a newspaper rather than a painkiller. But when they experience the dishomeostasis of having a headache then they need the painkiller and cannot spend that money on buying something else. They are more driven to pay for relief than for pleasure.
A man in the state of homeostasis can wisely choose between spending a sum of money on a book, a visit to the zoo or in a restaurant. But a man, who pays a prostitute instead of buying a book is unable to make a wise choice, he is driven by an urge to reduce his physiological discomfort.
2.3. By evolution, women's strong need for emotional attachment has replaced the urge to copulate as being identical with the urge to get pregnant at the moment of a noticeable estrus. This need to not only be in a situation of being able to get attached but also to experience the attachment as reciprocal is doomed to bring harm and pain, as long as it is onesided, because too many men are driven towards copulation without attachment.
Many women get emotionally attached to their children, while they commodify and take advantage of men as material providers. Based upon the evolutionary asymmetry, I am wondering, what is cause and what is reaction and how many women do breed not by really preferring their children for emotional attachment, but by perceiving this as their only chance to get any emotional attachment, which they do not consider possible with a man.
Women commodify men as purses and men objectify women as bodies, but there is a huge difference. Men are at least respected as being able to fill the purses. Women are perceived as bodies only apt to trigger men's instincts, which is not considered as an achievement requiring a brain and justifying respect.
2.4. By recognizing the reality of men's instinctive urges I do not excuse or condone any abuse of women. Men have the problem, it is their task to cope with it without abusing women.
2.4. By recognizing the reality of men's instinctive urges I do not excuse or condone any abuse of women. Men have the problem, it is their task to cope with it without abusing women.
When someone has a recurrent problem, which causes him so much discomfort, that he is willing to pay for a remedy, because he is unable to solve it in any other way, this is usually considered as an affliction, as an unfortunate and detrimental situation.
But when the recurrent problem is a man's sexual dishomeostasis, and his choice of a remedy is paying for prostitution, because he is unable to get emotionally attached in a serious relationship, then this man often feels proud of his high libido and is in complete denial, that he has an affliction, a disability and a defect.
I consider men, who are proud of their high libido, as pathetic idiots.
But when the recurrent problem is a man's sexual dishomeostasis, and his choice of a remedy is paying for prostitution, because he is unable to get emotionally attached in a serious relationship, then this man often feels proud of his high libido and is in complete denial, that he has an affliction, a disability and a defect.
I consider men, who are proud of their high libido, as pathetic idiots.
The man, who has a low libido and no need for emotionally unattached copulation is the winner in the lottery of life, which has given him the genes, which cause the least harm to himself and to women and the most long term benefits.
High libido is as obsolete as excessive hunger or appetite. For long parts of human history, overeating served survival. Fat stored on the body, when food is plenty was needed in times of scarcity. Before modern medicine, the mortality was so high, that male high libido combined with physical strength enabled men to force so many pregnancies on women, that the species survived. Today, the same combination has led to overpopulation. Men overeating damage themselves, men driven by high libido towards abuse damage women.
Unfortunately, people are more prone to change attitudes and behaviors, when they experience the damage on themselves, then when they only harm others.
Not all men abuse women, and there are many, who theoretically and generally agree that women deserve better than being abused, with or without being paid. But this is not sufficient. What is really needed is a radical change of men's attitude towards their own libido.
High libido is as obsolete as excessive hunger or appetite. For long parts of human history, overeating served survival. Fat stored on the body, when food is plenty was needed in times of scarcity. Before modern medicine, the mortality was so high, that male high libido combined with physical strength enabled men to force so many pregnancies on women, that the species survived. Today, the same combination has led to overpopulation. Men overeating damage themselves, men driven by high libido towards abuse damage women.
Unfortunately, people are more prone to change attitudes and behaviors, when they experience the damage on themselves, then when they only harm others.
Not all men abuse women, and there are many, who theoretically and generally agree that women deserve better than being abused, with or without being paid. But this is not sufficient. What is really needed is a radical change of men's attitude towards their own libido.
It is the same as with obesity. As long as a man considers it as good to be fat, he will continue with a positive attitude towards overeating. Only if he changes his attitude and considers overeating as harmful and undesirable behavior, he can control. his behavior and loose weight. As long as a man considers it as good to pay for the abuse of prostitutes, he will continue with his positive attitude towards a high libido. Only if he changes his attitude and considers copulation without attachment as abusive, harmful and undesirable behavior, he can control his behavior and stop all abuse of women.
While there is nothing wrong with any
amount of libido, as long as it can be absorbed entirely by the physical
intimacy earned by emotional attachment in a bonded monogamous
long-term commitment, men need to acknowledge and recognize, that all
libido beyond this is a dangerous and detrimental affliction. Only then the world can become a better place for women.