702. The Male NoFap Movement Brings No Benefit For Women
I just happened to read for the first time about the NoFap movement. My first superficial reaction was to welcome the rejection of pornography. But then I found out, that this is not the objective, but an unintended side-effect. The real objective is men's very selfish intention of some weird form of self-improvement. Reducing the plight of women is not the goal. Women are insignificant in this concept.
The man watching pornography indirectly damages some women. His victims are the women, who are abused by the production of pornography. By his demand for pornography he contributes to producing more and thus abusing more women.
He also desensitizes himself towards perceiving women as objects and not as persons, which harms women, who by mistake get involved with him with wrong expectations.
But even though the pornography temporarily enhances his dishomeostasis, his subsequent solitary manual restoring of homeostasis has no direct victims.
I just happened to read for the first time about the NoFap movement. My first superficial reaction was to welcome the rejection of pornography. But then I found out, that this is not the objective, but an unintended side-effect. The real objective is men's very selfish intention of some weird form of self-improvement. Reducing the plight of women is not the goal. Women are insignificant in this concept.
The man watching pornography indirectly damages some women. His victims are the women, who are abused by the production of pornography. By his demand for pornography he contributes to producing more and thus abusing more women.
He also desensitizes himself towards perceiving women as objects and not as persons, which harms women, who by mistake get involved with him with wrong expectations.
But even though the pornography temporarily enhances his dishomeostasis, his subsequent solitary manual restoring of homeostasis has no direct victims.
In the case of a not partnered man, there can even be a collateral benefit, when thus restoring temporary homeostasis, this can reduce his being a nuisance to all women, who do not want to be involved with him.
The man on a NoFap project refrains from pornography but only as a collateral side-effect. This is not his goal, the pornography has only lost its utility. On a small scale this abstaining does unfortunately not suffice to reduce the market and the abuse of producing more.
The not partnered man's goal is the self-improvement of learning to live with his urges. During his NoFap periods, he lives in the state of permanent and growing physiological dishomeostasis. Would he not get innately into such states, he would never have developed those habits, which he now wants to discontinue by NoFap. This makes him anything between a nuisance and a hazard to all women around him.
The man on a NoFap project refrains from pornography but only as a collateral side-effect. This is not his goal, the pornography has only lost its utility. On a small scale this abstaining does unfortunately not suffice to reduce the market and the abuse of producing more.
The not partnered man's goal is the self-improvement of learning to live with his urges. During his NoFap periods, he lives in the state of permanent and growing physiological dishomeostasis. Would he not get innately into such states, he would never have developed those habits, which he now wants to discontinue by NoFap. This makes him anything between a nuisance and a hazard to all women around him.
Even if he does not transgress boundaries by harassment, assault or rape, any interaction with him can be very unpleasant and unsuitable for a woman. Though a woman wants a rational, decent and serious conversation, this is not available from a man, who is disabled and deranged by his instincts craving for her body. So while in a state of homeostasis, he could be an interesting person, his NoFap inner battles deprive her of a rational interaction with him.
NoFap is not an appropriate solution for the male physiological affliction. Instead it is necessary that men take full responsibility to cope with their biological predisposition in a way, which eliminates all abuse of women.
NoFap is not an appropriate solution for the male physiological affliction. Instead it is necessary that men take full responsibility to cope with their biological predisposition in a way, which eliminates all abuse of women.
There cannot be any doubt, that men in a state of homeostasis are much better not only for women, but for everybody around them and even for themselves. The recurrent male dishomeostasis needs to be remedied.
Men need to learn, that the best, if not the only non-abusive way of coping with their biology is forming stable, bonded, monogamous relationships, in which intellectual and emotional attachment with a woman as a person prevents abuse.
Otherwise men's manual remedy needs at least to be mentally separated from any imagination or observation of the abuse of any living woman. Men need to learn and to comprehend, that while their biological urges are real, this does not mean, that women exist to be abused for this purpose.
Women are there to connect with emotionally and intellectually, or else they are not to be touched. NoFap does not help men to learn this.
Additional thoughts (2015-3-31).
It seems that the above text can be misunderstood. I have therefore written an additional entry elaborating this topic:
732. How Men Could Cope With Their Physiological Urges Without Disrespecting Women
Additional thoughts (2015-3-31).
It seems that the above text can be misunderstood. I have therefore written an additional entry elaborating this topic:
732. How Men Could Cope With Their Physiological Urges Without Disrespecting Women
