708. Men's Implicit Disrespect And Disregard For Women's Minds
Men are afflicted by feeling recurrent urges, for which they consider women's bodies as the best remedy. But this is biologically asymmetrical, there are by far not as many women with complementary needs.
Depending on many factors, men are coping quite differently with this asymmetry. Unfortunately, these methods of coping show implicitly a lot of disrespect, disregard, denial and depreciation for women's brains and cognitive qualities.
- In some cultures more than in others, men feel entitled to abuse women, whenever their social or physical power enables them to do so. They do not even consider to owe anything to their victims.
- Men feel entitled to abuse women's body, whenever the women seem to sell their self-abuse as prostitutes as an alleged choice.
- Gender roles in many societies generally attribute to men the role of being a source of material benefits, even when there is commitment and no abuse. In marriage and often also in cohabitation, the man provides all or parts of the standard of living for his wife or partner. During phases of courting and dating, or in any other forms of non-cohabitation, men feel obliged to pamper women by spending money on her for invitations to restaurants and events, and expensive gifts. This is a social norm, women are encouraged to expect this. Nevertheless men implicitly compensate for their asymmetrical physiological needs by material benefits.
- If men do not want to pay and nevertheless also do not want to feel as abusers or recipients of a favor, they (as pointed out in entry 707) belief the myth, that they could sufficiently please women physically and that in this case women would not experience and perceive the asymmetry. This is a fallacy based upon male ignorance of biological facts.
In all these constellations, men asymmetrically want access to female bodies, but they either give nothing or only material, non-personal advantages.
They do not give anything of real value. They do not give themselves.
They either do not feel a need or they feel no reason and not obligation to share their mind, their cognition, their cultural and intellectual pursuits, their thoughts and feelings. They want to connect bodies without connecting minds, without creating a unit of bonding, attachment and togetherness.
This is a very blatant disregard, disrespect and depreciation of women. I acknowledge, that many men are not even aware of this. They are ignorant of more appropriate alternatives to the indignity of merely material compensation. But this ignorance can only explain the plight of women, it does not justify it.
Where are those few men hidden, who have true mindmate quality, who have a stronger need for the connection of the mind than for the connection of the body?