"Dr Satoshi Kanazawa, an evolutionary psychologist from the London School of Economics and Political Science, said the smarter a man is, the less likely he is to cheat on his partner."
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1254420/Men-cheat-wives-intelligent-faithful-husbands.html
The following research puts Kanazawa's quote into a wider context.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/08/120809151351.htm
"Research from psychological science suggests that categorizing things abstractly into broad categories (called high-level construal) allows us to psychologically distance ourselves from the pushes and pulls of the immediate moment. This, in turn, makes us more sensitive to the broad implications of our behavior and leads us to show greater consistency between our values and our behavior."
"The researchers draw together many strands of research to provide evidence for the role of these different kinds of construal in decisions involving self-control."
Abstract thinking is one facet of intelligence.
Cheating is one variety of harming by commodification and objectification.
Therefore I rephrase the quotes above for the generalized application to my search of a partner:
There is a negative correlation between a man's ability for abstract thinking and his proneness to harm and hurt a woman.
These are some effects:
- A man's ability for abstract thinking leads to his interest in abstract thinking, the appreciation of a woman's abstract thinking and the wish to share it with her. While physical needs are asymmetrical, the needs for and the joy of intellectual intimacy are symmetrical and enhance an egalitarian attitude.
Less abstractly intelligent men are more prone to confound women with being only bodies to be used. Not only do they hurt women by objectification and commodification, some are unable to understand, why being used hurts women. - Some man's ability for abstract thinking creates strong cognitive needs, which are stronger than his instinctive urges. This man's behavior is determined predominantly by his cognitive needs and not by his instinctive urges. The total of his needs causes him to be most attracted to monogamous bonded commitment.
A less abstractly intelligent man with instinctive urges of identical strength, but who lacks the cognitive needs, is determined by his not outweighed instincts. He copulates like a dog from the gutter, no matter the harm experienced by the betrayed women getting attached without reciprocation. - Abstract thinking allows to see the benefits of a relationship by a long term calculation. Momentary dissatisfaction and conflicts are experienced as temporary and the investment to improve the relationship is based upon long term thinking.
Less abstractly intelligent men are prone to value a relationship by the requirement of it always being subjectively beneficial to their needs. They are prone to consider dumping and replacing women as the best method to deal with a momentary dissatisfaction, lacking any consideration for the women's sufferings. - Abstract thinking allows a deeper and more complex understanding of the dynamics of a relationship. This facilitates constructive communication to solve conflicts.
Less abstractly intelligent men, who do not understand, why a woman feels hurt, are unable to do their share to improve the relationship. They are more prone to run away when experiencing their own incompetence. They hurt the woman by dumping her without giving her a chance.
The above research is one more reinforcement of the importance of my mindmate to be found being able to think rationally and abstractly. Whenever a men feels deterred by the abstraction and complexity of this blog, this is intended. A man, who does not comprehend, what I write, is not compatible. He is welcome to refrain from contacting me.
Some reactions to this blog, both as comments and in emails, indicate that there are men lacking the ability to comprehend my abstract thinking. These men are trapped in the double fallacy of overestimating their own importance and to misunderstand the purpose of this blog.
Every time a man spends his time on such reactions, no matter how much, he wastes his time. No matter what he says, it just translates into one simple statement. He considers me as not suitable for him as long as I remain as I am. This thinking makes him unsuitable for me.
Informing me by the proactive writing of an email of reciprocal unsuitability serves nothing. (This of course has nothing to do with the politeness of someone replying to my initiative of having contacted him first).
Some reactions are hostile diatribes. Others proffer patronizing advice what to do differently and how to change. Some are projections by suggesting I should get fixed by seeing a therapist.
Some reactions are completely off, not replies to what I have written, but to what they have misunderstood and misinterpreted. Some are not bothered to read entire posts, instead one sentence taken out of its context suffices as a trigger to contradict me for the purpose of making themselves feel good by reinforcing their belief to be right.
All such reactions are varieties of men's belief to know better than I do, their belief that they are right and I am flawed, sometimes it is as bad as a grandiosity delusion.
But I am not impressed. I see these reactions as what they are: indicators of the Dunning-Kruger effect as already mentioned in entry 360 :
"The Dunning-Kruger effect occurs when incompetent people not only fail to realize their incompetence, but consider themselves much more competent than everyone else. Basically - they're too stupid to know that they're stupid. "
http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Dunning-Kruger_effect
This blog is meant to be a positive filter. I want to encourage a man to contact me, if he experiences my writings as if written by a (near)clone of his own brain. I welcome neutral and not hostile comments asking questions or pointing out, what could be elaborated.
But there are billions of unsuitable men out there, and the best they can do is not bother me. To be informed of his existence by any unsuitable Joe Doe is of no interest to me. They are most welcome to not contact me.
