578. There Is Nothing Wrong With Being Different
There is nothing wrong with being different, as long as one does not want to be like everybody else. It has only the big disadvantage of the scarcity of likeminded people.
As already mentioned in entries 575 and 577, propinquity creates attraction between personalities, it contributes to people becoming significant to each other.
When people are forced by circumstances to interact in the absence of propinquity, this can lead to unpleasant situations and experiences. Those people, who are not only puzzled due to their incomprehension and who misinterpret and misunderstand, often carelessly harm and reject those, who do not fit in.
The probability of finding propinquity depends upon how much people are average and how much they differ. The more people are at the extremes of the bell curve for any trait, skill, tendency, disposition, propensity, the less often they find propinquity and the more often they get rejected.
But not all people suffer from rejection, some reverse the rejection and consider those, with whom they share not propinquity, also as not attractive to interact with. Instead of feeling rejected by insignificant people, they prefer to search for people with propinquity.
There are billions of people on this globe, and the leap in technology during the last few decades enables people today to communicate with others, no matter where they are. Nobody needs to be bothered about insignificant people, while there are ways to find those with the potential to become significant.
According to research, being different can be beneficial for those persons, who are not motivated to be be like the majority:
There is nothing wrong with being different, as long as one does not want to be like everybody else. It has only the big disadvantage of the scarcity of likeminded people.
As already mentioned in entries 575 and 577, propinquity creates attraction between personalities, it contributes to people becoming significant to each other.
When people are forced by circumstances to interact in the absence of propinquity, this can lead to unpleasant situations and experiences. Those people, who are not only puzzled due to their incomprehension and who misinterpret and misunderstand, often carelessly harm and reject those, who do not fit in.
The probability of finding propinquity depends upon how much people are average and how much they differ. The more people are at the extremes of the bell curve for any trait, skill, tendency, disposition, propensity, the less often they find propinquity and the more often they get rejected.
But not all people suffer from rejection, some reverse the rejection and consider those, with whom they share not propinquity, also as not attractive to interact with. Instead of feeling rejected by insignificant people, they prefer to search for people with propinquity.
There are billions of people on this globe, and the leap in technology during the last few decades enables people today to communicate with others, no matter where they are. Nobody needs to be bothered about insignificant people, while there are ways to find those with the potential to become significant.
According to research, being different can be beneficial for those persons, who are not motivated to be be like the majority:
http://digitalcommons.ilr.cornell.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1622&context=articles
Sharon H. Kim/Lynne C. Vincent/Jack A. Goncalo: SOCIAL REJECTION AND CREATIVITY
"In three studies, we show that individuals who hold an independent self-concept performed more creatively following social rejection relative to inclusion. We also show that this boost in creativity is mediated by a differentiation mindset, or salient feelings of being different from others."
