684. What Partner Seeking People Can Learn From Monozygotic Twins
In men's profiles, again and again I am reading statements, which express the preference for someone more different then alike. Implicitly or explicitly expressed is the belief, that the attraction of opposites were the best strategy for finding a match and the apprehension of getting bored with a clone of the own person.
But there is living evidence for the benefits of being like two birds of a feather:
Monozygotic twins raised by the same people are as much alike as can be. Do they get bored with each other? I very much doubt it, based upon what I have been hearing and reading about the especially close and strong lifelong bond of such twins.
In men's profiles, again and again I am reading statements, which express the preference for someone more different then alike. Implicitly or explicitly expressed is the belief, that the attraction of opposites were the best strategy for finding a match and the apprehension of getting bored with a clone of the own person.
But there is living evidence for the benefits of being like two birds of a feather:
Monozygotic twins raised by the same people are as much alike as can be. Do they get bored with each other? I very much doubt it, based upon what I have been hearing and reading about the especially close and strong lifelong bond of such twins.
This apprehension of getting bored is also not logical.
If one person enjoys something of personal interest like an art exhibition or a theater play alone, sharing such activities does not make them less interesting, to the contrary, the sharing enhances the joy. And when both contribute initiatives for more such activities, it could even reduce the risk of boredom.
Comparing notes, pointing out observations, sharing thoughts and agreeing can be at least as interesting, rewarding and fascinating as controversial debates. But agreement enhances harmony, while controversy may lead to antagonism and disruption.
Comparing notes, pointing out observations, sharing thoughts and agreeing can be at least as interesting, rewarding and fascinating as controversial debates. But agreement enhances harmony, while controversy may lead to antagonism and disruption.
If anything leads to boredom, it is the consequence of those compromises, by which one partner reluctantly participates in the other's favorite activities. If a man in this situation is content to pursue his interests instead with his buddies, not even missing the sharing with his mate, then this indicates the degrading attitude, that a woman is only a body to be used and not a significant companion.
Thus, whenever a man puts emphasis on the attraction of opposites, this is a red flag, It could indicate a man prone to objectify women.
Thus, whenever a man puts emphasis on the attraction of opposites, this is a red flag, It could indicate a man prone to objectify women.
The ideal prerequisite for long term happiness is the combination of being mentally as similar as possible, but (in the case of straight couples) having complementary bodies. If any attraction of opposites is acceptable, it has to be restricted to only concerning physical and visible aspects.
