732. How Men Could Cope With Their Physiological Urges Without Disrespecting Women
This continues entry 702. The Male NoFap Movement Brings No Benefit For Women, which seems to have been misunderstood. So I add some clarification:
An unpartnered man, who respects women as humans with a brain and a personality, behaves following these guidelines:
He recognizes the risk of making himself a nuisance to women and the necessity to avoid this. He accepts to prevent causing any harm to women and to his own ability to respect woman. He never copulates like an alley dog, not by payed abuse nor by taking advantage of the consent of women without self-respect. His need to cope with his recurrent physiological tensions requires a non-abusive method to maintain his homeostasis.
This continues entry 702. The Male NoFap Movement Brings No Benefit For Women, which seems to have been misunderstood. So I add some clarification:
An unpartnered man, who respects women as humans with a brain and a personality, behaves following these guidelines:
He recognizes the risk of making himself a nuisance to women and the necessity to avoid this. He accepts to prevent causing any harm to women and to his own ability to respect woman. He never copulates like an alley dog, not by payed abuse nor by taking advantage of the consent of women without self-respect. His need to cope with his recurrent physiological tensions requires a non-abusive method to maintain his homeostasis.
This method is the unrestricted use of his hand but with the clear cognitive attitude and goal of this being a merely mechanical way of cleansing.
He is motivated to not jeopardize his respectful attitude towards women. Therefore he avoids anything, which would desensitize him and which would trick his subconscious mind to automatically confound female bodies as toilets for his body waste.
He distinguishes cognitively between mechanical cleansing and physical intimacy as a facet of a longterm monogamous bonded attachment.
Therefore he never looks at pornography.
Pornography has been made by abusing real women. The customer of pornography is mislead towards the cognitive pseudo-justification and trivialization of watching women apparently enjoying copulation. He avoids cognitive dissonance by the complete denial, that abused and disgusted women have only feigned and pretended in front of a camera, what appeals to the animal in him.
The realistic quality of photos and movies tricks the male mind to confuse the combination of his manipulations while merely watching as if he himself had also experienced the performance of what he does not recognize as abuse. The result of habitual exposure is a fatal desensitization and subconsciously learning and enhancing the automatic and spontaneous degradation of women as objects.
Exaggerated male urges for female bodies have evolved over millions of years. Photography only exists since 200 years. Therefore a man needing mechanical relief can perform this without pornography.
He never fantasizes about any really existing woman.
He never fantasizes about any really existing woman.
Alley dog copulation without longterm emotional attachment and respect for a woman's brain and personality are mutually exclusive.
When a man's animal instincts make him feel the urge to copulate like an alley dog, his choice of subsequent behavior makes a big difference only for the targeted woman. If a man approaches her suggesting the physical abuse of her body, this informs her of his disrespect. If he only abuses her in his fantasy while finding solitary relief, she usually does not even know it.
But for the man's subconscious mind in both cases the experience is similar. It is the successful and pleasurably rewarded degradation of a woman's body as a toilet. Thus his respect for her person is damaged in both cases, no matter if she has agreed to real abuse or if her agreement was only a part of his fantasy.
Only the woman, who is approached, can show her indignation and adjust her behavior towards him. In the case of fantasized abuse, the targeted woman is impeded from appropriate reactions by the ignorance of his unnoticed disrespect. While due to her unawareness of his hidden degradation and insult she continues to be friendly to an unworthy man, his subconscious mind is prone to misinterpret her lack of any indignation as consent or even encouragement.
The side effect hereof is the deformation of his expectations and his accompanying loss of respect for women. Instead of acknowledging all degradation and objectification of women as an outrage, he gets mislead to consider the indignation of women with self-respect as a defect in comparison with too many women appearing to him as if not bothered. As the result of this desensitization he considers only those women, who seem to comply with their own objectification, as healthy and appealing.
Preserving the ability to respect women requires to avoid this effect.
Any man, who disagrees with these guidelines, does not respect women.
