538. The Proof Is In The Pudding....
(Which correctly quoted should be as 'the proof of the pudding is in the eating'.) While there are clues in men's profiles (the topic of a future entry) concerning their general attitude towards women, better clues can be derived from corresponding.
Someone's reaction to my disagreement with the implicit expression of the acceptance of relationships as asymmetrically beneficial for men is very informative.
(Which correctly quoted should be as 'the proof of the pudding is in the eating'.) While there are clues in men's profiles (the topic of a future entry) concerning their general attitude towards women, better clues can be derived from corresponding.
Someone's reaction to my disagreement with the implicit expression of the acceptance of relationships as asymmetrically beneficial for men is very informative.
Based upon my need for intellectual intimacy as a relationship essential, my profile on matchmaking sites contains this statement:
Geographical distance is easier to overcome than mental distance.
The following is a good example of an exchange of messages, which do not even require any further comments.
His first message:
"NOTE: MENTAL distance is much easier to overcome than Geographical distance."
My reply:
'Without any conclusions about you personally, in general this attitude tells me, that a man denies a woman her vital need for intellectual intimacy. Mental distance deters intellectual intimacy.
Whenever a man is not bothered about mental distance, he is an abuser, who intends to objectify a woman's body, while he does not value her enough for intellectual intimacy.'
His first reaction:
"With your 'caustic' attitude, I honestly think that you would really be what is called in North America, a 'Royal Pain in the Ass'."
His additional second reaction:
"Your "Presumed Intellectual Capacity", very nuch exaggerated in your own mind, is comparable to a Mental Midget.
You greatly over estimate your capacity with another human being who may be a 'thinker', and I think that anyone who would waste 'time' to keep corresponding with you is one, sad, foolish human being.
I cannot wish you 'Much Success' since that would be undermining the intellectual capacity of a possible interested man who might be 'taken in' with your 'mental onslought'."
