Instincts and the Cognitive Dissonance of Intellectual Men
This continues entry 256.
Animals and stupid, uneducated men enjoy their indulgence in what their instincts determine them to do, because they are not able to do anything better with themselves. They are hedonists, because they lack the ability to be Epicureans. They do not experience instincts as a force in themselves, their identity is determined by their instincts. They copulate like dogs in the gutter with any consenting female body as a good way of life without even having any awareness of the alternative of considering women as persons available also as companions.
But not only the alley dogs, but also most other men experience the lack of sexual homeostasis more or less strongly as a cognitive disabling affliction, making them temporarily dysfunctional due to the obsession and compulsion of the need for homeostasis.
Rationally seen, the mere physiological experience of copulation for the purpose of restoring homeostasis is a very banal, dull and boring activity, if compared with intellectual pursuits. The true value of physical intimacy is enhancing the bonding and the feeling of belonging together as a committed couple. But enhancing means, it cannot create bonding, if the bonding is not the result of intellectual and emotional intimacy.
Those men, who are intelligent, educated, cultivated, are prone and at risk to experience cognitive dissonance between the urges of their instincts and their cognitive interests and abilities.
Wise mature intellectual men acknowledge that their banal need for restoring sexual homeostasis is an unwelcome affliction, that is detrimental to their intellectual life. They would not want to waste time an energy to get only homeostasis, this would make their cognitive dissonance worse. Therefore these men get committed to a companion, so that they have homeostasis as a side effect, while the companionship gives them something much better. Such men want to enhance the feeling of being bonded for both themselves and their companions, and they appreciate, that this also keeps them in the homeostasis, which they need.
Bonding disabled men avoid experiencing cognitive dissonance by one or both of the following methods:
1. They accept the banality of sex by degrading women to instruments and commodities. They experience the need for sex similar to constipation, and women are not more to them than a laxative. They buy women's services as they buy the laxative. This impedes them to experience, perceive and consider women as equals, as companions, they are not able to respect and appreciate the mind and personality of women.
2. They are in complete denial of the fact, that sex is dull and banal. They idealize it as if it were the most beneficial and rewarding purpose of their life. They identify with their instincts and are proud to be studs. As absurd as this is, they are proud of their animal instincts. Whenever they are at risk of experiencing sex as banal, they consider this as a challenge to invest resources into getting more thrill out of it.
These misguided fools choose a woman not for her emotional and intellectual qualities, but for the amount of infatuation, they can get from her body for a limited time. After that time, they discard her and replace her by another body, where they get more thrill.
In their pathetic hunt for sexual thrill these fools pay incredible sums of money to a vast market of selling anything between sex toys and pornography in the vain attempt to get excitement from something too banal for the intellectual needs of mature men.
As soon as a man is wise and mature enough to acknowledge, that sex by itself is a banality not worth to allow his life to be determined by it, he is ready to become a bonded companion.
If bonding-disabled men would spend their money not for the temporary thrill sold by the sex business, but on therapy and counseling in how to learn bonding and finding homeostasis as a part of commitment, they would do less damage to themselves and to many of their female victims. They would even find the happiness, that they can never find, as long as they focus on finding sexual thrill as a pathetic substitute.
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I just added a new page with the tilte 'The Relationship Deal'. I am explaining, what I offer and what I expect in return from a partner, this includes also the topic of homeostasis in a relationship.
This continues entry 256.
Animals and stupid, uneducated men enjoy their indulgence in what their instincts determine them to do, because they are not able to do anything better with themselves. They are hedonists, because they lack the ability to be Epicureans. They do not experience instincts as a force in themselves, their identity is determined by their instincts. They copulate like dogs in the gutter with any consenting female body as a good way of life without even having any awareness of the alternative of considering women as persons available also as companions.
But not only the alley dogs, but also most other men experience the lack of sexual homeostasis more or less strongly as a cognitive disabling affliction, making them temporarily dysfunctional due to the obsession and compulsion of the need for homeostasis.
Rationally seen, the mere physiological experience of copulation for the purpose of restoring homeostasis is a very banal, dull and boring activity, if compared with intellectual pursuits. The true value of physical intimacy is enhancing the bonding and the feeling of belonging together as a committed couple. But enhancing means, it cannot create bonding, if the bonding is not the result of intellectual and emotional intimacy.
Those men, who are intelligent, educated, cultivated, are prone and at risk to experience cognitive dissonance between the urges of their instincts and their cognitive interests and abilities.
Wise mature intellectual men acknowledge that their banal need for restoring sexual homeostasis is an unwelcome affliction, that is detrimental to their intellectual life. They would not want to waste time an energy to get only homeostasis, this would make their cognitive dissonance worse. Therefore these men get committed to a companion, so that they have homeostasis as a side effect, while the companionship gives them something much better. Such men want to enhance the feeling of being bonded for both themselves and their companions, and they appreciate, that this also keeps them in the homeostasis, which they need.
Bonding disabled men avoid experiencing cognitive dissonance by one or both of the following methods:
1. They accept the banality of sex by degrading women to instruments and commodities. They experience the need for sex similar to constipation, and women are not more to them than a laxative. They buy women's services as they buy the laxative. This impedes them to experience, perceive and consider women as equals, as companions, they are not able to respect and appreciate the mind and personality of women.
2. They are in complete denial of the fact, that sex is dull and banal. They idealize it as if it were the most beneficial and rewarding purpose of their life. They identify with their instincts and are proud to be studs. As absurd as this is, they are proud of their animal instincts. Whenever they are at risk of experiencing sex as banal, they consider this as a challenge to invest resources into getting more thrill out of it.
These misguided fools choose a woman not for her emotional and intellectual qualities, but for the amount of infatuation, they can get from her body for a limited time. After that time, they discard her and replace her by another body, where they get more thrill.
In their pathetic hunt for sexual thrill these fools pay incredible sums of money to a vast market of selling anything between sex toys and pornography in the vain attempt to get excitement from something too banal for the intellectual needs of mature men.
As soon as a man is wise and mature enough to acknowledge, that sex by itself is a banality not worth to allow his life to be determined by it, he is ready to become a bonded companion.
If bonding-disabled men would spend their money not for the temporary thrill sold by the sex business, but on therapy and counseling in how to learn bonding and finding homeostasis as a part of commitment, they would do less damage to themselves and to many of their female victims. They would even find the happiness, that they can never find, as long as they focus on finding sexual thrill as a pathetic substitute.
_______________________
I just added a new page with the tilte 'The Relationship Deal'. I am explaining, what I offer and what I expect in return from a partner, this includes also the topic of homeostasis in a relationship.
