I am a woman born 1949 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:

The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

349. Sapiobonding With a Sapiomate

Sapiobonding With a Sapiomate

I just came across a new concept, called sapiosexuality.   As I understand it, it shifts the emphasis away from infatuation triggered by stimuli from the body towards infatuation triggered by intelligence and brains.    It is one step of progress away from instincts triggered in humans the same way as they are triggered in animals.    Instead, animal instincts are triggered by a truly human quality.    

I am taking this one step further.   Infatuation is ephemeral and when it fades, it either leads to bonding or to the failure of the relationship.   I would prefer to skip infatuation and start a relationship immediately with bonding and with a conscious commitment.   
Throughout this blog, I described my quest as that for bonding with a mindmate, based upon hypoanimality and intellectual intimacy.  

In analogy to sapiosexuality, I could also phrase it as my quest to find a sapiomate for sapiobonding.