I am a woman born 1949 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:

The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

233. A Blog is Not an Autobiography

233.   A Blog is Not an Autobiography

Someone asked me in a private email:
" ...  you have had some crappy relationships with men. Personally I would have slapped the creeps and broken it off immediately instead of being subjected to indignity ...."
"How did you ever get yourself in those predicaments. I don't take you as naive? You seem too smart for that."
These are good questions, and I do not want to give the wrong impression, as if I were easy prey, prone to linger too long under outrageous treatment.    

A blog is not an autobiography.   It can be sometimes, when I tell explicitly, what has happened to me, from the snow in my garden to explicitly labelled true stories.  

But the main purpose of this blog is to find my mindmate by making clear, what is important to me.      

Examples, scenarios, metaphors, analogies are methods to add clarity to my thoughts.   Their purpose is not to rant with the truth of an affidavit about bad experiences, but to illustrate, what I want and accept, and what not.   
Some of them are modified own experiences, but some are the experiences of others or my own creation and imagination, maybe inspired by something that I have read.   

So please do not confound me with a sheep ready for the next jerk.