Love Has No Age, But Equality Has
I think to have mentioned before, that I am sick and tired of being contacted by men, who are considerably younger, but who think to be good enough for me, to be equals in spite of being much younger. Usually they do not even understand, why I reject them.
Here is an analogy:
Someone wants to book a course to improve the knowledge or skill of something, for example a language at a school, that offers several levels from beginners to very advanced. This person can only learn and feel at ease in a class, that corresponds to his own level of previous knowledge.
In a class for beginners, he would be superior and learn nothing, in a too advanced class he would be inferior and could not follow and also would learn nothing.
Life is a process of learning and gaining maturity. A couple is a team cooperating in the learning process of creating a happy committed relationship. This also requires to be on the same level of the process of personal growth as a result of aging.
I am 61, and with a male person of 30 or 40, whom I perceive as a boy, a youngster, but not as a man, there would be a very imbalanced situation. The maturity level of my age is so far above his, that he is just inferior. I would have to lower myself down to his level, that is half or a third of a life time behind me. By lowering my own level to his, I would be the giving one, the teacher, the guru, and he would be the receiving, learning and profiting one. I would be the giving one to someone, who has nothing to value to give back to me.
Equal rights between all people are independent of who the persons are. But an egalitarian relationship requires a solid base of equality, that includes also the age.
I think to have mentioned before, that I am sick and tired of being contacted by men, who are considerably younger, but who think to be good enough for me, to be equals in spite of being much younger. Usually they do not even understand, why I reject them.
Here is an analogy:
Someone wants to book a course to improve the knowledge or skill of something, for example a language at a school, that offers several levels from beginners to very advanced. This person can only learn and feel at ease in a class, that corresponds to his own level of previous knowledge.
In a class for beginners, he would be superior and learn nothing, in a too advanced class he would be inferior and could not follow and also would learn nothing.
Life is a process of learning and gaining maturity. A couple is a team cooperating in the learning process of creating a happy committed relationship. This also requires to be on the same level of the process of personal growth as a result of aging.
I am 61, and with a male person of 30 or 40, whom I perceive as a boy, a youngster, but not as a man, there would be a very imbalanced situation. The maturity level of my age is so far above his, that he is just inferior. I would have to lower myself down to his level, that is half or a third of a life time behind me. By lowering my own level to his, I would be the giving one, the teacher, the guru, and he would be the receiving, learning and profiting one. I would be the giving one to someone, who has nothing to value to give back to me.
Equal rights between all people are independent of who the persons are. But an egalitarian relationship requires a solid base of equality, that includes also the age.
