A Metaphor for Denial
A man drives underneath a steep cliff. In front of him lies a boulder on the road. Any person of normal intelligence drives around or stops. A moron drives straight on until he hits the boulder with full speed. His reason is his denial of reality in favor of his belief of what should be.
The moron in denial believes that there cannot be any obstacles, because a road is made to drive upon it without obstacles. If he is alone in the car, he is a candidate for the Darwin award. But if there is a woman with him in the car, who repeatedly warns him with growing urgency, and he ignores her warnings, then he is responsible for the harm, that hitting the boulder does to her. He believes his definition of a road more than he believes the perception of reality of the woman.
The emotional moron is just like that man. He has entered a relationship and believes that by using domination, the road is free with no obstacles to get all his needs out of the woman, whom he believes to be a commodity. The woman repeatedly warns him, that he is running with full speed towards the destruction of the relationship. He is in full denial until it is too late, and the relationship is over. He is responsible for the harm, that he does to the woman by ignoring her warnings. He believes his delusion of the woman's appropriate role as a commodity more than her attempted explanation about her reality.
Maybe there should be a Darwin award for the most stupid way to destroy a relationship and to drive a woman away.
A man drives underneath a steep cliff. In front of him lies a boulder on the road. Any person of normal intelligence drives around or stops. A moron drives straight on until he hits the boulder with full speed. His reason is his denial of reality in favor of his belief of what should be.
The moron in denial believes that there cannot be any obstacles, because a road is made to drive upon it without obstacles. If he is alone in the car, he is a candidate for the Darwin award. But if there is a woman with him in the car, who repeatedly warns him with growing urgency, and he ignores her warnings, then he is responsible for the harm, that hitting the boulder does to her. He believes his definition of a road more than he believes the perception of reality of the woman.
The emotional moron is just like that man. He has entered a relationship and believes that by using domination, the road is free with no obstacles to get all his needs out of the woman, whom he believes to be a commodity. The woman repeatedly warns him, that he is running with full speed towards the destruction of the relationship. He is in full denial until it is too late, and the relationship is over. He is responsible for the harm, that he does to the woman by ignoring her warnings. He believes his delusion of the woman's appropriate role as a commodity more than her attempted explanation about her reality.
Maybe there should be a Darwin award for the most stupid way to destroy a relationship and to drive a woman away.
