quest


I am a woman born 1949 and my quest is to find a mindmate
to grow old together as a mutually devoted couple
in a relationship based upon the
egalitarian rational commitment paradigm
bonded by intrinsic commitment
as each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right man
to recognize us as reciprocal mindmates and
to encourage him to contact me:
marulaki@hotmail.com


The entries directly concerning,
who could be my mindmate,
are mainly at the beginning.
If this is your predominant interest,
I suggest to read this blog in the same order
as it was written, following the numbers.

I am German, therefore my English is sometimes faulty.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.
Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?
Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?
If so, please tell him to look at this blog.
While you have no reason to do this for me,
a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,
which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?
If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.


Wednesday, April 27, 2011

296. Bears and Jerks

Bears and Jerks

For a woman, bears and jerks have a lot in common.   

When a woman hikes in the bear's territory with a backpack full of food, this is very dangerous.    If the bear smells the food, he wants it.   If the woman does not give it to him, the bear will attack her and harm her very seriously.    She has no chance to find an agreement with the bear by constructive communication, the bear cannot be convinced, that the food is hers.   He cannot even be talked into a compromise to share the food.    He wants the food and he uses his power to get it.   The bear is unable to comprehend any reasoning and cannot be influenced.   The woman is helplessly at the mercy of the bear.   If the woman does not keep at a safe distance and runs, whenever she sees a bear, he will harm her.     The bear is a predator, the woman is the prey. 

With a jerk (this includes the emotional moron), the situation is the same.    
When a woman gets near a jerk, appearing to be a suitable commodity for him, this is very dangerous.    If the jerk notices the benefits to be obtained from her, he wants them.   If the woman does not submit to be a commodity, the jerk will attack her with rage and intimidation and harm her very seriously.    She has no chance to find an agreement with the jerk by constructive communication, the jerk cannot be convinced, that the benefits are hers and only to be earned.   He cannot even be talked into a compromise of a fair deal.  He wants the benefits and he uses his power to get it.   The jerk is unable to comprehend any reasoning and cannot be influenced.   The woman is helplessly at the mercy of the jerk.   If the woman does not keep at a safe distance and runs, whenever she sees a jerk, he will harm her.   The jerk is a predator, the woman is the prey.