A Good Question
This is someone's comment to the previous entry:
This is someone's comment to the previous entry:
I'm wondering at your age are guys still immature or jerks? I would think by 50's 60's men AND women would have grown out of this younger phase and the problems in dating would be more about finding someone available (unattached, w/o kids, etc) rather than immaturity
This is a good question, and there is a logical answer to it.
One enabling factor in the process of maturing are painful experiences, if people are capable to learn from them.
When a woman gets involved with a jerk or any kind of an immature man, she suffers and learns to avoid a repetition of this experience by looking through a magnifying glass from then on for red flags.
But the immature man has coerced his onesided benefits out of the woman without suffering himself. Due to his inability to bond and to be an equal partner he made the woman suffer instead. Thus he has no instigation to learn and to grow mature. His immaturity preserves itself, because he does not suffer from it.
When he either has dumped a woman as not serving his needs or when he has driven her away with ruthless and cruel behavior, he feels not responsible at all, but blames it on the woman. Such a man never learns, never improves and is still immature at the age of 60. At that age, the proportion of available men of all men is smaller than at a younger age, so the proportion of jerks and immature men of all available men may be greater than at a younger age.
